My father - Everyone's hero

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It's been quite a while since I've written here, and today is really the first day that I feel up to doing anything. The last four months have been unbearable, and I lost my father the day after Christmas.  

My mom is totally broken at this stage, and we are all struggling to keep her standing. To be married to someone for fifty years is like losing a piece of yourself that cannot be filled ever again.  

Strangely enough, I am quite at peace. I know that my father had a good life and that he completed his tasks on earth. He was a brilliant teacher to so many children who are now grown ups and he touched the lives of so many people.  

I had no other means as to post his passing on Facebook and you can't imagine how many people made contact with me after I announced it.  People who's lives he changed for the better.  My father was not only my hero, he was the hero of every single child and parent who he came in contact with.  He was loved by all, and he was the wisest man I have ever known.  

I was blessed to have him as my father and I am so grateful for every little thing he taught me in life. My father was not just a teacher.  He was born to be a teacher and he had compassion and all the patience in the world.  He had a very calm way to handle difficult situations and he made a very deep impression on people.   

He was a born teacher and he will be forever missed by everyone whose lives he touched. My father taught me very valuable lessons in life, and I want to share some of it with you.  

He taught me to be compassionate but don't let people walk over you. 

He taught me to love others the way I love myself, and to show kindness wherever I go.  

He taught me to be realistic and not to expect too much from others, because he knew that we were all alone on this earth.  Even though there are people around us all the time, we are in fact alone.  We were born alone and we will die alone. 

In some way I think my father knew that he was not going to live very long, and he came to sit and chat with me every single day while he was still able to.  I will cherish those chats forever.   

 I can keep on writing for hours, but this is all I can bare at this stage. Everything will be back to normal soon even though my normal is no longer the normal I knew.  I will find a new normal because that is what my dad expected from me.  


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Ons is so bevoorreg om pa's te gehad het wat sterk mans was en ons soveel dinge geleer het - hou vas aan die herinneringe.

Your Dad most definitely touched many lives, the one piece of content with him sitting on the rocks in Port Edward was one I clearly recall thinking this man has endless patience.

Reading chronicles on his early teaching years, being principle through changes, yes you could tangibly feel his love of teaching for both young and old.

He lives on within you, memories will remind you constantly, our parents really gave us much to be proud of @giantbear.

Give Mum a hug as often as you are able.

I'm sorry for your lost. I hope everything will be better soon for you and your family.

Thank you very much @heartbeat1515 I really appreciate it.

You were certainly blessed to have a good father my friend.
He did his job here on earth very well and he was a decent man.
Our sincere condolences to you, your mom and the family.
We will certainly do a prayer for all of you.

I was blessed and still am. Thank you so much for your prayers. Praying helps for everything. xx

Agreed with you that prayers are essential.
All strength to you guys!

I hope your still doing ok❤️🙏

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So terribly sorry for your loss hon. I know it has been a long and emotional time for you. You are in my heart love and am here if you need an ear. Stay strong! Lots of love!

Thanks Jaynie it has really been a long time now and I'm trying to find my way back slowly.

I was so sad to hear about the loss of your Dad! Wonderful memories and a priceless legacy he's left behind having touched so many lives!
My prayers are with you and your family @giantbear!

He was a legend @lizelle and he was the best person I have ever known. I will miss him forever. My mother is totally heartbroken, and I am so worried about her.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It is good that you give your mother support in her time of mourning, for as you say, she has lost a piece of herself. You are very lucky to have had a father who instilled in you his life knowledge, and his valuable thoughts and ideals on living a good life.

Thank you so much. He was the best person on earth and he taught me well.

Of this, I am sure. :)

It’s been 4 months since we lost my father in law and life sucks after I wish you strenght to help your loved ones and heal your broken hart

Thank you so much. Life goes on and we have no choice but to go forward.

My thoughts are with you and your family. His memory will live on in you all. X♥️

He was a better person than I could ever be. Thank you.

He was a wonderful man. You are really blessed to have him. I'm sorry for your loss.

He was wonderful and he will surely be missed forever.

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. The world certainly seems like it was a much better place for having him in it, and I'm sure you'll continue to pass on his teachings.

So sorry to hear of the loss of your father. Blessing to you and your family. 💕

My condolences to you and your family. Losing someone you love is like losing a piece of your heart. We continue on with thoughts of how our loved ones lived to help in moving on. He is a great man as he taught you how to truly love.

Sorry to hear this. It's an awful thing indeed. Look out for your mum is especially tough on them as you are seeing x

It was awful but it's over now and life has to go on. I really stress about her now because I know exactly what you went through.

My condolences on the loss of your dad. My heart goes out to you and you are in my thoughts and prayers as you navigate the new normal for you. Your mom needs that extra piece of you right now, I cannot even fathom losing a mate at this point in my life.

Such a profound loss, a parent is. My love to you. xo

I am so sorry for your loss @giantbear. Your father looks and sounds like he was an amazing man, mentor and role model. We can only wish to impact others like this while we are on this earth. Thank you for sharing him with us, I pray for you and your family during this time of reflection and celebration of his life. Blessings

My heart goes to you @giantbear
The one way you can honour your dad is to live your forward
That's what he would want for you..

My sincerest condolences to you & your family. 🙏🙏🙏

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A loss that like that is devastating but especially so during the holidays. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family. And a healing hug.

Thanks for sharing your experience with us!

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The loss of a beloved parent is such a difficult loss. My condolences.

My deepest sympathies. It is a good thing you were at peace and that you shared enough to have tons of good memories. Losing our parents is never easy. I lost my father 5 years ago and I miss him more every day.


My father is like my son the most important man in my life, I do not see my life without him! How sorry I am for your loss, there are no words to weigh your pain, only time will help you deal with it, I send you a big hug!

Your father sounded like a wonderful man and passed on some wonderful lessons to you, which I appreciate you sharing!
How lovely to have your dad sit and talk to you, a very treasured time and wonderful gift for your father to leave you!
May you find comfort in your time of grief!

What a beautiful soul @giantbear, so sorry for your loss. 🙏

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I am so sorry, @giantbear. It is so hard to lose our loved ones, especially those we truly treasure, and who bring us joy. It sounds like he was a wonderful and quietly powerful force in your life. I can really relate to that. My father was that person for me too.

I’m so glad you are at peace, and I hope very much that your mother can find peace too.

My condolences for your loss. Losing a parent is always difficult, but during the holiday season it makes it worse. 😥 If you need to talk, lean on your PHC family, as we are here for you!