Overcoming Evil With Good - [Psychology of doing good]

in hive-175254 •  4 months ago 

Most times, because of our makeup and how we are wired, it is not uncommon for people to reciprocate an ill behaviour with an ill response. This is so much inherent in humans that some people's subconscious mind is tilted towards "responding in like manner" even against what they may have resolved within themselves.

Sometimes ago, I read a psychology research which involved 65 college students. They were given some tasks to perform which included some hedonic acts and some complementary selfless acts (like helping others), it was discovered that there is a particular "feel good" effect that is attached to doing good to others than seeking just your own good, as revealed by the students. This has led me to believe that, as humans, you will feel more fulfilled when your actions are tilted towards the greater good of humanity.

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Another psychology publication has gone to validate the fact that doing good is a higher form of feeling good. That is; it is way more important for someone to do good than just feeling good. Doing good can make one feel good but the reverse is not always true because, feeling good can also be derived from hedonic acts which do not translate to doing good.

For someone that may think that they are wired to respond badly to situations. Well, science has also proven that you can actually rewire your brain to act differently. ref. That means, each time you have the inner urge to respond to a situation with negative or bad action but you decide to suppress the urge and do something better, you are constantly rewiring your brain to tilt towards the right direction and it won't be long, you will gain mastery of goodness.

We should also try to remember that there is a measure of goodness even in the worst of them all. In the same way, there's also a measure of the "flip side" in the best of them all - It is only a function of their choice. Doing good and following goodness with people is not a gift but it is borne out of a conscious choice which anyone can make irrespective of their status.

If someone does an ill to you and you reciprocate with something ill, then you are not different from the person. In the world full of cruelty and misdeeds, the only way to make the difference is to be entirely different. When you reciprocate someone's bad with bad, how does it make you feel? Does it okay the deeds and make it good? Believe me, bad is bad, no matter if it was done in response to another bad. The only way to win against bad is by reciprocating with good.

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You don't need someone to do good to you before your goodness will be done to others - let your goodness be a lifestyle and you will be surprised how you can turn the world around you and make it a better place by just your acts of goodness. The message of hope you have to the world is only substantiated by your actions. Even if your words are soothing and kind but your actions are very cruel, then your goodness is very questionable.

You are defined, not necessarily by your words but your complementary actions. This is obviously the reason the old proverb has it that "actions speak loudest". You may profess goodness but if your actions do not substantiate it, then the words are already futile. Whatever happens, always know that you are responsible for your actions.

You can also read this article on psychology of doing good.

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Resteemed already :) Upvote on the way

I appreciate it. Thanks fam

Hi @samminator

This is a great post and I completely agree, we all feel good when we do good.

I believe what you have written about is related to my post today on Habit 2 from the #sevenhabits - what do you think?

If we are true to ourselves and see who we really want to be in life - we will see that we want to be someone kind, compassionate, charitable etc. So let's be true to ourselves and live with some positive energy.

Do you believe everyone has this deep routed goodness?

Many thanks buddy. Actually, I do believe that there's a measure of goodness in everyone but it is the absolute prerogative of everyone to decide to do good.

I'll check out your post buddy. Many thanks

I also believe that we all naturally have goodness in us. However, some choose to then do bad things for selfish reasons.

It is not usually easy to do good to someone who has done bad to you previously, but like you said, there is no justification for being bad.

Exactly. It's not easy but that's the only way to prove that you can do better than the person. Many thanks buddy

Absolutely correct, have a great day.

Interesting choice of topic @samminator

Welcome within project.hope community :)

I'm glad you found the topic interesting. Many thanks for coming around buddy Creativeblue. Glad to be part of the community

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Thanks buddy Culgin

Hi @samminator

the sense of belonging makes people empathize more and have positive emotions, since it generates higher levels of serotonin and this makes them feel good. I have always believed that it is a healthy practice to have attitudes that add up.
Better to walk through life adding and turning negative into positive, so we will have a better world and a nice place to live.

"responding in like manner"

Couldn't solve a problem.

When you reciprocate someone's bad with bad, how does it make you feel?

When i have responded with badness, there will be another intention to respond even worse than before (Problems are getting worse).

Greetings friend @samminator.

This is the Philosophy of Life that we should all have.

This message of peace and coexistence has been transmitted by many figures throughout the history of humanity, but as we know very well, few have known how to abide by it.

From Jesus and Buddha Gautama to Ghandi and Mandela, we have heard this message of love.
Apparently, the warlike, hate and death nature of the human being has been stronger.

Let's do good without looking at whom.

Thanks for sharing.

Your friend, Juan.

Doing good is very important; and I agree with @ajewa, doing good to someone who has done you wrong is not easy. Especially when people drive, the human being becomes another being, robotized, mechanized, who does not see others as human beings, especially in the city.

The motorists, if they could, would be able to pass over us. Here they are a plague. They don't respect the traffic lights, they drive in the opposite direction, they drive on the sidewalks.

They don't mind breaking rear-view mirrors when they get too close.

It's hard to be good or do good :/

But doing good makes us better people, on all levels.

Thanks for sharing :)

I must confess it is a pretty difficult thing to do but it is just the best.

Very informative post @sammintor

The good book always encourage us to help one another no matter how difficult the seem at the moment.

Good deeds will stay superior to bad deeds any day and any time, great post.

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