Fellow lady, Fellow girlfriend,
We are THE FAVOR FACTOR!
The Lord knows that and so does the accuser of all brethren – the devil. He knows how immensely God has gifted us but he too, has mastered the art of making us doubt our calling.
We walk as beggars, strained, trudging along others, shoulders bent with the weight of the world on us, and yet, God bestows immense favor on the men that are joined to us – because they found us!
We have been called to build our marriages and husbands, and we can be highly effective if only we realized that we have the power to make it so.
We are not gold-diggers, we are not drama queens, we are not for booty calls or titillation!
Any man out there who seeks you out and finds you, obtains favor. It’s all for the glory of the Lord! You are the favor factor in his life!
Independence is simply that, Independence. It’s not a ticket to being rude, but it’s a strength of which many of us do not know.
But most often than not, we spend so much time having our worth pegged on the type of men around us, what we get from them, what they buys us, where they take us.
Things and material gain(s) define us- and we forget that we are the favor factor in their lives!
You are the favor factor to your husband!
We really don’t realize the power we have as women!
The Bible says that whoever finds a wife, finds a good thing!
WE ARE THE FAVOR FACTOR ladies! Again and again! We are the Mega Jackpot! The deal breakers! We are powerful.
We have so much power, yet we don’t use it! Instead we want control, are addicted to control, to a point that control ends up controlling us.
The moment you will realize that, you will not nag, you will not stoop, you will not be discouraged, instead, you will put on your costume, you will buckle up, take up your tools, and position yourself right in your marriage.
Don’t you know that a king isn’t a king without his crown?
A virtuous and excellent wife [worthy of honor] is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him [with her foolishness] is like rottenness in his bones.
: 1. THE POWER OF ENCOURAGEMENT AND COMFORT.
The power of encouragement from a wife to a masculine soul is so transformative. Nothing gets to them faster than an encouragement, a pat on the back, a kiss on the forehead that simply whispers “am proud of you.”
Proverbs 14:1 says,
The wise woman builds her house [on a foundation of godly precepts, and her household thrives], But the foolish one [who lacks spiritual insight] tears it down with her own hands [by ignoring godly principles].
The words here to underline are – a wise woman builds, a foolish one destroys. By IGNORING and NAGGING!
He is not good with shopping. He’s not good in welcoming the visitors. He’s not good with finances. He is not good in arranging stuff around the house. He’s not good enough.
Truthfully speaking, no one will ever be good enough, but everyone has something to be celebrated about.
He might not really be good at arranging stuff, but he is probably the greatest dad.
He might not be so good in planning, but his execution is flawless!
How about encouraging him?
We all know what’s needed for marriage to thrive. Of course some get in blindly, but we are always advised, yet we ignore.
We ignore the power of encouragement from us to our husbands and assume, well, he will pull through! “Whatever!”
A wise woman knows that her words build, not only spiritually, but they are highly effective in bringing out THE MAN FROM WITHIN!
The husband considers her as an asset and lacks no good thing!
Trust me, it’s hard to tempt a man whose wife has mastered the art of encouragement! Yes it’s true! He knows that he has an asset not a liability! Men gravitate towards what is rewarded.
From my own experience, I can tell you that this is nothing but the truth.
You might tell me it’s simply encouraging him to be dependent on you entirely without his own intrinsic drive – and that’s not good!
Then I will ask you this, if that makes him a better person, is it a hard thing to do? If no bone is broken, if it simply improves instead of draining, then what is hard about it?
Let’s get our spines back. When was the last time you put on your tutu skirt gal! When was the last time you shake it all for your man!
Be the queen that you are.